Day in the Life: Penpals

I swear things that happen to me that just aren’t supposed to happen in real life.  Case in point:
Yesterday I received a three-page, hand-written letter from Curtis.  In this letter, he told me about himself [a Christian man from a large family] and what he does in his spare time [read his Bible and watch football].  He hopes that I am well and asked many questions about me and how I am doing.  His purpose in writing the letter was to find a “nice single Christian lady” with whom to start a penpal-esque relationship that could turn more and more serious, eventually leading toward marriage.
Pretty strange, huh?  But wait… there’s more!
Now, and I feel it’s important to mention this, Curtis is serving time in an Indiana prison [for battery].  Also of note: I’ve never heard of the guy in my life, which poses quite the quandary of how he obtained my name and mailing address.  Granted, it’s the address from which I just moved, but it was correct down to the apartment number and that kinda freaks me out.
Honestly, I am torn.  Torn between not wanting to invite further communication with a previously-violent-but-quite-possibly-reformed-as-he-claims stranger and finding out how the hell he discovered me.  Tim thought that perhaps a friend of mine who once served time passed Curtis my name.  But I didn’t think this was possible, seeing as that friend served his time in Ohio.  Then I thought of another friend that could have, but his time was spent here in Illinois.  Finally, it occurred to me  that I know too many people who have served time in prison–that should change.
Should I write him back?  Tell him that, too-bad-so-sad, I am engaged to be married and by-the-by how in the hell did he get my address?  I wouldn’t give him my new information, of course.  The post office is still forwarding my mail.

6 thoughts on “Day in the Life: Penpals

  1. First, I had no idea you knew so many people who served time. Second, prison inmates are often employed in telemarketing positions and privy to calling lists and such. Perhaps he got the information from that? Even so, if he spent 3 pages without telling you why or how he knew to wrote you, I doubt he will be forthcoming otherwise. This could always be some phishing thing (he sends letters until somebody writes him back). Either way, I advise against replying even though curiosity demands it.

  2. I think you should reply… But as someone else. Perhaps a nice southern gal named Arlene whose exactly what he's looking for. Then ask, as Arlene, how he got Arlene's contact info.
    I've heard of this happening before… But usually it's the other way around, where a girl will be given a list of inmates who are looking for wives and she selects which one to write too… Perhaps someone put your name in a reverse list, or put you up on some sort of inmates personal thing.
    Anyway, you should have fun with this. But not in a cruel, jugemental way – just fun as a curious human being. Intention is important here though. Don't go in with the intention to deceive – go in as someone wanting to learn more about another human being.

  3. Noooo!
    DO NOT answer that! DO NOT even give into the idea for one moment that this guy is legit! Oh my word you are SO much smarter then that–don't be torn! You are a young, beautiful, funny, wonderful woman who deserves to be safe and loved! Do NOT answer that letter please! I have a horrible feeling about it! Oh please don't!

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