You know the feeling when something finally clicks? Like you’ve known it, but when you really know it, it’s different. I had one of those moments the other day.
I was reading the self-esteem book and she was talking about when we’re afraid of something happening we defend ourselves against it, but our actions actually make the thing we were afraid would happen, happen.
For example, I am afraid that I won’t make it as a writer. In order to spare myself that possible rejection and the outcome of having no writing future, I seldom finish what I write or send it off to publishers. But since I never finish anything or submit it, I never will make it as a writer. At least if I tried “the book’s way”, I’d have a shot at becoming a writer. My way I have no shot at all. The thing I don’t understand is why do I do this?
Why is it easier to shoot ourselves down than risk the chance that someone else will do it? All that does is make you mad at yourself.