From watching television, or hearing other couples who have been married for a long time, it seems that marriage is supposed to be [or, at the very least, usually turns out to be] devoid of love and sex. And I’m not saying every married couple is like this, but you hear things like “the old ball and chain” or people talking about loss of freedom enough times, or spouses cheating on each other and start to think it’s the norm.
And I realize I’m hardly an expert on marriage–having only been married for two months now. So maybe someone else out there can explain things to me. Which is more prevalent: unhappily married couples or happily married couples?
Part of me is a little worried. Because right now I really love my husband. I don’t consider him a burden, and I certainly would never be unfaithful to him. He’s my best friend. We spend almost all of our free time together and still I miss him when I’m at work. Will I suddenly wake up one day to find all of this changed? Or is it a slow progression until you finally reach a point where you are married to someone you despise? How does that happen?
I have also heard of this thing called a “honeymoon phase”. We talk about it like we all know what it is, but no one really seems to know. I even Googled it. According to what I’ve read, the “honeymoon phase” lasts either: two months, four months, six months, 1 year, 2 years, or forever. Clearly these people know what they are talking about.
Also there is that. What’s that all about? Warren and Amber, I am specifically looking at you. Was your Year Seven particularly itchy? Perhaps on the dawn of your seventh anniversary you and your spouses woke up questioning everything about your relationship. I assume that this feeling then evaporated once you hit year eight, likening it to an Eighth Year Baking Soda Bath.
Or perhaps people are full of crap and making poor life choices and then blaming those choices on their spouses or soothing psychobabble catch-phrases (hello, mid-life crisis)?
Do you know?